Sexual abuse is an abuse that in our church is one of the most extreme and repulsive. Not sure why it is worse than another but, a defintion of it is:
Sexual abuse includes violent sex, constant nagging for sex, forcing someone to participate in pornography, forcing someone into prostitution, or forcing someone to participate in a sexual act they are not comfortable with.
If you have experienced this kind of abuse and would care to share from your experience it would be helpful to the rest of us to help us understand it better.
DARLENE
LIKE I said in other forum i have never expericenced
this my self.
dgrimm60
No, you may not have experienced it but I do know there are quite a number of singles who have. It is not something that is easy to admit to. The shame is horrendous.
Child sexual abuse generally refers to sexual acts, sexually motivated behaviors, or sexual exploitation involving children. Child sexual abuse includes a wide range of behaviors, such as:
Oral, anal, or genital penile penetration
Anal or genital digital or other penetration
Genital contact with no intrusion
Fondling of a child's breasts or buttocks
Indecent exposure
Inadequate or inappropriate supervision of a child's voluntary sexual
activities
Use of a child in prostitution, pornography, Internet crimes, or other
sexually exploitative activities
Sexual abuse includes both touching offenses (fondling or sexual intercourse) and nontouching offenses (exposing a child to pornographic materials) and can involve varying degrees of violence and emotional trauma. The most commonly reported cases involve incest, or sexual abuse occurring among family members, including those in biological families, adoptive families, and stepfamilies. Incest most often occurs within a father-daughter relationship; however, mother-son, father-son, and sibling-sibling incest also occurs. Sexual abuse is also sometimes committed by other relatives or caretakers.1
To find out signs of child sexual abuse go to:
http://www.childwelfare.gov/can/types/se.../signs.cfm
DARLENE
yes I am sure it is hard for people (especially children) to
come forth with the information about the abuse.
and I am sure about the guilt because the children
blames themselfs.
dgrimm60
Yes, I'm sure they think 'it was all my fault, if I wouldn't have been at certain place or done a certain thing then it wouldn't have happened to me. And it was probably not their fault at all. That is the sad thing about those who have been sexually abused. They blame themselves and are ashamed. It will take them years to get over that and many never will come to terms with what happened. Their life is one big cover up.
They blame themselves and are ashamed. It will take them years to get over that and many never will come to terms with what happened. Their life is one big cover up.
You have broken down the various forms of abuse into categories. While in some cases they may be separate, often sexual, physical, verbal, etc are present. And, yes, the abused person does blame themselves and they can not 'share' their experiences.
Sometimes there is a mental block that prevents the receiptant from being fully aware of the things which happens. It becomes a play in which they observe it happening on another level ... to a person who looks like them. The more they attempt to please the abuser to make it stop, the worse it becomes. Then due to extreme guilt, they find it impossible to tell anyone. Catch 22.
Yes, often more than one kind of abuse is involved. I think of the case in the news the last few days about the man in Austria who kept his daughter in the basement for 24 years and she bore him 7 children. How evil! What level can a human being sink to?
http://www.cnn.com/2008/WORLD/europe/04/...index.html
DARLENE
YES I heard and saw that on the news also about the man
that kept his daughter in the basement and had children
with her. we do wonder some times how far people can
go with being evil. BUT in GEN chap 6 ver 5 the bible says
that before the flood people were doing evil continually
our generation may be close to that but we are not
there yet
dgrimm60